A podcast that explains how everything is psychology. Even your 20s. Hosted by Jemma Sbeg, each Tuesday and Friday we deep dive into the science and psychology behind a topic, concept or universal experience that defines our 20s - from dating, to mental health, career anxiety, friendship, finances and all the growing pains associated with this decade. Listen now.&nbsp;
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The Psychology of your 20s

In a culture increasingly organised around productivity and individual choice, many of our repeated behaviours have become about efficiency rather than meaning. In this episode, we explore why even very small rituals - a meal, a walk, a song, a candle - can give shape and significance to ordinary life, particularly in our 20s.
 Watch on Netflix: HERE
 We explore:
  
Why rituals aren’t just religious or spiritual
 Why performing rituals is an integral part of human behaviour
 How rituals create belonging and maintain relationships
 How predictable rituals can provide an anchor during uncertainty, overwhelm and periods of change
 Why our 20s may particularly benefit from rituals
 The importance of ritualising endings
  
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 Our favourite sources:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1088868317734944 
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S109051381500077X 
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/00084298241238680 
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1545-5300.1992.00151.x 

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476. Why you need more rituals!

Why do some people seem to move from relationship to relationship with barely any time in between, and why does being single feel almost impossible for them? In this bonus episode, we’re diving into the psychology behind relationship hopping (aka serial monogamy) and what’s really happening when someone craves commitment quickly, struggles with time alone, or keeps repeating the same cycle with different partners.
 We explore:
•        The role of attachment in serial monogamy
•        Why artificial closeness is so appealing
•        The pull of the infatuation cycle
•        The brain chemistry of love, reward and attachment
•        What this pattern can teach us about self-growth
 
Happy listening!
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 The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 
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475. Why some people can't stay single 

Content note: This episode includes discussions of exercise, dieting, weight loss and body image.
 How do you learn to love exercise when it has always felt like punishment? In today’s more personal episode, I’m sharing how I completely changed my relationship with movement over the past three years, from barely moving to running half marathons and genuinely enjoying the gym.
 Watch on Netflix: HERE
 We discuss:
  
Why enjoyment became more important than discipline
 Starting slowly and letting yourself stop
 How I focused on progress that wasn't attached to my appearance
 Removing comparison from your fitness journey
 My running tips 
 Why taking a break doesn’t mean having to start all over again
  
Happy listening!
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 The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 
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474. How I transformed my relationship with exercise

Why does dancing in a crowd feel so good? What is the emotional allure of the dance floor, the club scene, the music? Today, we’re exploring the psychology of clubbing, from the physiological rush of a beat drop to the role it plays in making the most of our 20s.
 Watch on Netflix: HERE
 We discuss:
  
How music and dance influence our mood
 Collective effervescence: the feeling of being part of something bigger
 Why clubs feel freeing for some and overwhelming for others
 Alcohol, inhibition and “hangxiety”
 Clubbing as a coming-of-age ritual
 FOMO, nostalgia and why our relationship with nightlife changes
  
Happy listening!
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 The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 
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473. The psychology of clubbing 

Is a 'spark' all that it takes to be compatible in the long-term? What about sharing the same interests, personality or sense of humour? Or is it something more deep and intangible? In today’s episode, we explore what ACTUALLY makes two people right for each other, and why the things that draw us together aren’t always the things that keep us together.
 Watch on Netflix: HERE
 We discuss:
  
 Chemistry versus long-term compatibility
  
 Why shared values matter more than shared hobbies
  
 The importance of feeling understood, appreciated and responded to (i.e the Gottman's theory of responsiveness)
  
 How the belief in soulmates can shape your relationship
  
 The Four Horsemen that erode connection
  
 What an argument can reveal about your future together
  
 Whether you’re dating someone new or reflecting on a long-term relationship, this episode explores what it means to build a love that lasts, through change, conflict and the thousands of little choices we make along the way.
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 The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 
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472. What ACTUALLY makes people compatible? 

Why is there so much pressure for your wedding to be the best day of your life? And what happens when that pressure gets in the way of actually enjoying it? Today, we’re unpacking the psychology of weddings: the expectations, money, family dynamics and friendship tensions that come with saying “I do”.
 Watch on Netflix: HERE
 We explore:
  
 Why the “perfect wedding” can leave us feeling disappointed
  
 How weddings became such extravagant events
  
 Social media, comparison and the pressure to spend more
  
 The surprising relationship between wedding spending and divorce
  
 Why weddings can expose cracks in our friendships
  
 The psychology of elopements ...
  
 Whether you’re planning a wedding, attending your sixth this year or wondering whether to skip the whole thing, let’s talk about keeping the celebration from overshadowing the relationship.
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 The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist. 
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471. The psychology of weddings 

Do you really have a love language? And does learning your partner’s actually make your relationship better? In this bonus episode of our debunking psychology series, we unpack the truth behind one of the most popular ideas in modern dating. We explore:
  
 Where the five love languages came from and their religious roots
  
 The controversial advice in Gary Chapman’s original book
  
 What the research actually says about love languages and relationship satisfaction
  
 Why lasting love might need a “balanced diet” of affection
  
 Partner responsiveness and what it means to feel understood, valued and cared for
  
 Find all episodes of DEBUNKING PSYCHOLOGY: HERE
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470. Are the love languages a big myth?

We blush, we look away, we replay the moment for hours (or years) after it happened, becoming convinced that everyone noticed far more than they probably did. Embarrassment is an interesting and complex emotion, but it can help us recognise social expectations and communicate how our behaviour affects others.
 Watch on Netflix: HERE
 We explore:
•        When we first develop the capacity to feel embarrassed
•        Why we blush and the role of embarrassment in trust
•        Why some of us feel embarrassment more than others
•        The role of rumination 
•        The psychological and social role of embarrassment 
•        How we can form a better relationship with it
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 Our favourite sources:
 https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0025403
 https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/european-psychiatry/article/not-intended-still-embarrassed-social-anxiety-is-related-to-increased-levels-of-embarrassment-in-response-to-unintentional-social-norm-violations/F4143AB3B88D41FB18F9962696A77151
 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/desc.70024 
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469. The psychology of embarrassment

Brain fog is so much more than just feeling tired. It's that frustrating feeling of knowing what you want to say or do, but your brain simply won't cooperate. And whilst it's incredibly common, we're only just beginning to understand what actually causes it.
 Watch on Netflix: HERE
 In today's episode, we're breaking down the fascinating new research behind brain fog, including:
  
 The three main causes of brain fog, from physical depletion to cognitive overload and neurological disruption
  
 Why chronic stress, anxiety and mental load can leave your brain feeling exhausted
  
 The surprising links between brain fog, inflammation, long COVID and gut health
  
 Why women may be more susceptible to brain fog
  
 The science of sleep, nutrition and the brain's natural cleaning system
  
 What actually helps clear brain fog, beyond just drinking more water and getting more rest
  
 Extra links: 
 Brain fog and trauma: HERE
 Brain fog and ADHD: HERE
 Brain fog and food: HERE
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468. The psychology of brain fog

Does the taxi cab theory actually explain why some people suddenly become ready to settle down, or is it just another dating myth?
 In this episode, we’re breaking down the psychology behind the infamous, Sex and The City taxi cab theory and asking whether timing really can determine who we end up with. We explore commitment readiness, the social clock, why our relationship priorities change as we age, and the painful psychology of watching someone give their next partner everything they refused to give you.
 Watch on Netflix: HERE
 We discuss:
 • The psychology behind the taxi cab theory
• Why someone can suddenly become “ready” for commitment
• The foster girlfriend phenomenon
• Why timing matters, but compatibility matters more
• How to tell when someone is genuinely serious about you
• Why waiting for someone’s “light to switch on” can keep you stuck
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