On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Jay sits down with singer-songwriter Noah Kahan to break down the pressure that comes after “making it” - the imposter syndrome, the constant comparison, and the fear of losing it all. Noah shares how music became his escape from anxiety growing up, what it felt like to finally land the record deal he dreamed of, and why success didn’t silence the doubt, it amplified it. Jay and Noah unpack the myth of the “tortured artist,” and the quiet fear that healing might take away what makes you creative. Noah opens up about his recent OCD diagnosis, how he let go of the belief that he had to suffer for his art, and what it took to find his voice again without relying on pain. Noah speaks candidly about his struggles with body dysmorphia and the unexpected therapy of creating his documentary. Together they explore what it means to find balance and to stop performing for the world so you can finally be seen by the people who matter most. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Defining Your Worth by Your Work  How to Face Your Unseen Fears Through Therapy  How to Stay Present When Life Feels Overwhelming  How to Extract Lessons from Painful Feedback  How to Handle the Fear of Losing Your Success  How to Stay Grounded Between Praise and Criticism   How to Prioritize Your Time Over the Endless Grind Whether you are navigating a major life transition or simply trying to find your footing in a loud world, remember that your self-worth is not a mathematical equation based on your latest achievement. No one should have to navigate their mental health journey alone. Join Noah in the mission to prove that the more we share our stories, the more we empower others to do the same. Visit: https://www.busyheadproject.org/  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:54 Seeing Yourself Through the Eyes of Others  04:39 The Childhood Memory That Defined My Career  05:42 Middle Child Energy and the Need to Be Heard  06:57 Music Was My Only Plan A  08:44 The Disconnect Between Fitting In and Being Genuine   11:09 Expressing Yourself Without Giving Yourself Away  14:05 Songwriting: The Constant Search for a Simpler Life  17:25 Every Creative Process Is Different  18:52 When What You Do Becomes Who You Are  24:07 The Power of Journaling Your Lessons  27:05 Does Healing Kill Creativity?  29:48 My Biggest Regret in Communicating with Family  32:43 The Vulnerability of Filming Your Private Life  36:32 Healing and Finding Peace as a Family  43:51 Has Success Made Mental Health Harder or Better?  46:19 The Honest Truth about Body Dysmorphia  52:09 Living and Dying by Your Own Honesty  57:40 The Difference Between Going to Therapy and Doing Therapy  01:00:24 Do You Secretly Find Comfort in Your Pain?  01:02:01 Re-evaluating What Truly Matters After Success  01:05:59 Finding the Strength to Believe in Yourself  01:11:04 Protecting Your Heart While Taking Criticism 01:14:06 Stability Rooted in Love and Marriage 01:20:48 Would You Rather? 01:22:55 Gut Reaction 01:25:46 Noah on Final Five   Episode Resources: Website | https://noahkahan.com/  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/c/NoahKahan  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/noahkahanmusic  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/noahkahanmusic/  TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@noahkahanmusic  X | https://x.com/NoahKahan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay shares how, before we even get out of bed, our minds are already filled with worries, quiet anxieties, and thoughts we didn’t choose. Instead of intentionally creating our day, most of us unknowingly inherit stress from yesterday. Drawing on both modern neuroscience and ancient wisdom traditions, Jay reframes the morning not as a routine, but as the foundation of our mental “operating system”, a critical window where our thoughts shape how we experience the next 16 hours. Rather than relying on empty affirmations, Jay offers a more grounded, evidence-based approach rooted in how the brain actually works. He explains how our minds are most programmable in the early morning, when emotions are heightened and our critical thinking is still waking up. This creates a rare opportunity to interrupt automatic patterns, reset our focus, and consciously direct our attention before the world begins to pull us in different directions. In this episode you'll learn: How to Take Control of Your Mind First Thing in the Morning How to Stop Inheriting Anxiety Each Day How to Rewire Your Thoughts in Minutes How to Protect Your Attention Early How to Measure Your Day with Purpose Not Productivity  Every morning is a quiet reset, an opportunity that doesn’t ask for perfection, only intention. You don’t need to have everything figured out, and you don’t need to feel ready.  SpringFest is happening now, and our best lineup is here at Lowe’s. Visit: https://www.lowes.com/  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:26 Your Morning Is Programming the Rest of Your Day 04:17 The Creator's Hour 08:48 #1: I Am Awake Before My Problems 12:29 #2: I Am Not Yesterday 15:17 #3: Today I Direct My Attention 18:40 #4: I Won't Try to Solve Problems That Haven't Happened Yet 21:48 #5: My Body Isn't a Vehicle For My Head 25:14 #6: I Focus on What Matters Most, Not What Feels Urgent 28:25 #7: I Measure Today by Who I Am, Not Just What I Achieve See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special live conversation at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver, Canada, Jay sits down with renowned physician and trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté for a deeply moving exploration of identity, healing, and the hidden patterns that shape our lives. Gabor explains that our obsession with how others perceive us often begins in childhood, when our fundamental need to be seen and understood isn’t fully met. In response, many people unconsciously adapt, hiding parts of themselves or becoming who they think others want them to be in order to feel accepted and loved. In this episode you'll Learn: How to Stop Living for Others’ Approval How to Break Generational Trauma Patterns How to Know If You’re Living Your True Life How to Stop Tying Your Worth to Productivity How to Recognize When Stress Is Hurting You How to Listen to Your Inner Voice Again How to Start Saying “No” Without Feeling Guilty How to Practice Self-Compassion Instead of Self-Criticism How to Turn Your Past Coping Patterns Into Healing How to Ask the Question That Changes Your Life Real change doesn’t come from forcing yourself to be perfect or trying to fix everything overnight. It begins with small moments of awareness, pausing long enough to listen to that quiet inner voice, asking honest questions about what feels true for you, and giving yourself permission to honor it.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:41 Why Do We Care So Much About Others’ Opinions? 03:10 Learning to Love People the Way They Need 04:53 How Childhood Shapes Our Need for Approval 06:46 The Dangerous Belief: “I’m Only Valuable If…” 11:02 Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Rest? 12:37 What Stress Is Really Doing to Your Brain and Body 16:19 Saying “No” Is Essential for Your Wellbeing  21:05 The Power of Asking Yourself Honest Questions 23:44 How to Listen to Your Gut Again 29:52 A Live Compassionate Inquiry Session 33:23 Your Healing Is Helping Your Children 35:08 Trusting the Wisdom Already Inside You 36:53 Your Coping Mechanisms Aren’t Failures 40:11 Turning Past Mistakes Into Lessons 41:45 Balancing Self-Improvement and Self-Acceptance 47:54 The Question That Can Change Your Life Episode Resources: Website | https://drgabormate.com/  YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsRF06lSFA8zV9L8_x9jzIA  Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/drgabormate  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/gabormatemd/  X | https://x.com/drgabormate See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many of us have been on countless dead-end dates, excited by the wrong people, overlooking the right ones, and left wondering why finding a healthy relationship still feels so complicated. Jay sits down with behavioral scientist and dating coach Logan Ury to explore why modern dating feels harder than ever and what we can actually do to build meaningful relationships in a world full of options. Together, they unpack the hidden psychology behind attraction, the myths we believe about “the spark,” and how dating apps have changed the way we evaluate potential partners. Logan shares how many people unknowingly sabotage their chances at love by chasing instant chemistry instead of long-term compatibility, reminding us that the strongest relationships are often built through curiosity, emotional safety, and shared values rather than immediate intensity. Jay and Logan also dive into the patterns that keep people stuck in cycles of disappointing relationships. From the pressure to find the “perfect” partner to the fear of vulnerability, they discuss how modern dating culture can create unrealistic expectations. Logan explains the difference between people who date intentionally and those who drift through relationships without clarity, and why small mindset shifts, like asking better questions, focusing on growth potential, and recognizing emotional availability, can dramatically change our outcomes. The conversation highlights how understanding our own habits, attachment styles, and communication patterns can help us show up more authentically in love. In this episode you'll learn: How to Stop Chasing the Wrong People How to Look Beyond the First Date Spark How to Choose Compatibility Over Chemistry How to Date with Clear Intentions How to Avoid the “Maximizer” Dating Trap How to Ask Better Questions on Dates How to Build Attraction That Grows Over Time How to Date in a World of Endless Options If dating has ever made you feel discouraged, confused, or like you’re falling behind, you’re not alone. Building a meaningful relationship in today’s world can feel overwhelming, but the truth is that love isn’t about finding someone perfect, it’s about finding someone willing to grow with you. What are your dating blind spots? Take the quiz to find out! www.loganury.com/quiz   If you’re ready to understand your patterns in love and build healthier relationships, check out How to Not Die Alone. Click here to order: https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:11 The Problem with Modern Dating Expectations 04:16 The Three Types of Daters 06:30 Do You Believe In a Soulmate? 08:20 Why Dating Burnout Is So Common 10:23 Why Does Dating Feel So Difficult Today? 14:04 Why Hustle Culture Fails in Dating 15:46 Two Ways to Approach Dating Intentionally 18:52 What Is “Chalant” Dating? 21:35 When Rejection Becomes Content 24:12 The Rise of a Hesitant Generation 26:01 Why We’re Afraid to Make a Move 27:14 The Challenge of Male Vulnerability 29:23 Why Rejection Feels So Personal 32:21 The Fear of Choosing the Wrong Person 38:01 What Actually Predicts Long-Term Relationship Success? 44:36 The Biggest Lie We’re Told About Love 47:13 The Myth of the Movie-Moment First Meeting 49:22 Are Dating Apps Making Us Replaceable? 50:19 Start by Fixing Your Dating Profile 53:58 How to Optimize Your Dating Profile 01:08:07 Make It Easy for People to Engage with You 01:10:01 What Is Friction-Maxing? 01:12:11 “Rose Jail” on Hinge  01:15:58 Choosing a Partner Takes Real Effort 01:17:13 Do You Believe in  “Right Person, Wrong Time?” 01:18:22 Are People Giving Up Too Quickly on Love? 01:19:57 Post Date Eight  01:23:35 How Do You Define Love? 01:25:15 Is Love Alone Enough? 01:26:24 Falling in Love vs. Being in Love 01:27:50 What Truly Makes a Great Partner? 01:29:18 Are Your Standards Too High? 01:31:19 Understanding the “Ick” 01:35:23 This or That: Love Edition 01:40:36 Logan on Final Five Episode Resources: Website | https://www.loganury.com/  Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/loganury  LinkedIn | linkedin.com/in/loganury/  The Later Daters: https://www.netflix.com/ph-en/title/81665880 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.